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New Year, New Habits: Don't Let Your Inner Critic Ruin Your Resolutions

New Year, New Habits: Don't Let Your Inner Critic Ruin Your Resolutions

New Year's Eve! I'm such a nerd for new beginning. I always loved back to school time; spring time and rebirth; any excuse to evaluate where I'm at and where I want to go. I'm definitely the type to have lots of resolutions that I start in January. New Years Eve approaches, time to work on resolutions. But be sure to keep them fun and adventurous! I'm also, admittedly, the type to let those resolutions lapse by Valentine's Day! This year, instead of focusing on the year or the typical goals, I'm trying something different. I, like so many people, tend to default to saying, "This is the year I'm finally going to buckle down and ______". I almost always pick self improvement in some way. Lose weight. Read more. Volunteer more. Save more money. What is missing in so many New Year's resolutions is FUN. Where is the joy in "I'm going to drop 10 lbs."? So often New Year's resolutions end up being our inner critic in disguise. I'm going to save more money (because I'm not stable enough). I'm going to donate more to charity (because I'm selfish). I'm going to get organized (because my life is a mess). Self improvement is all well and good, but if there's even a little but of that mean voice in your resolutions, it's time to check it at the door. If you listen to that inner meanie, no amount of resolutions will ever be enough. It's important to remember YOU ARE ALREADY ENOUGH. As moms, we constantly see our flaws, our slip ups, all the places we could do more. Kids have a great way of mirroring those and taking advantage of your mistakes. The irony is that modeling good self esteem is one of the best ways we can prepare them for adulthood. Instead of resolutions, we should think about things we want. What do you want to do in 2017? What sounds fun? Who do you want to spend more time with because they make you feel like the best you? Where do you want to go? What do you want to learn? Throw some challenges in there, sure, but mix it in with the adventures. Hello Peaceful Mind has a great FREE printable planner for how to make the best of 2017. I love how it forces you to plan new goals and habits. It also includes a place for a bucket list, a reminder to not let our resolutions be a way to pick at our flaws, but for them to include the activities that make us excited for the year ahead. Here are my 12 goals/habits (in no particular order). 

  1. The 30 day Do Yoga With Me challenge. 
  2. One month of sticking to a daily routine. 
  3. One buy-nothing month. 
  4. Take a weekly class with the hubby. 
  5. Grow a big  summer garden. 
  6. Cash in our airmiles for a good trip. 
  7. 10 Hikes in 1 Month. 
  8. Redo our deck flooring. 
  9. 5 minute daily meditation for one month. 
  10. Create 10 mental wellness printables. 
  11. Daily writing challenge for one month
  12. 28 Day Lemon Water Challenge

First up is yoga! I desperately need to reestablish my practice. It has not been a priority since Olin was born and even worse since we moved. At the end of my pregnancy, I was doing yoga almost every day. It is an important part of my wellness plan that I have let slack. I would love to do a teacher training one day, if only to further my practice. A few things on my Bucket List for the year:

  • Camping with the boys
  • Victoria
  • Mount Rainier
  • A no-kids camping trip with my hubby
  • A yoga workshop or retreat 

Do you have goals for this year? Hit me up on Twitter where I'll be sharing progress! 

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