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Making Mom Life Fun By Adding Enjoyable Activities

Making Mom Life Fun By Adding Enjoyable Activities

Mindfulness is an important skill. Reality acceptance is an important skill. Gratitude is an important skill. But if you're depressed or overwhelmed, do you know what is the best way to help yourself out of it? 

Do kind and fun things for yourself!

A catch-22 though: guess what is really hard to justify and really hard to motivate yourself to do?

Anything kind and fun. 

This is a hundred-fold true for moms. We are supposed to enjoy taking care of our babies. We're supposed to enjoy playing with our kids. But the reality is we don't always enjoy that. Or sometimes we like some kid activities, but our kids like others. We're adults, not kids; and enjoying kid activities is not a condition for someone to want to be a parent (though I imagine it helps!). So we have to find some way to sneak pleasure into moments we are with our kids. 

It's all well and good to list things you like doing (and DBT Self-Help has a great list). I like going to museums, sitting on cafe patios, and shopping at thrift stores. But doing those things with my kids is seldom relaxing. 

The key to actually increasing the number of enjoyable activities you do is to find things you can do WHILE you watch your kids. Things like time in nature; planning date nights from your phone; picking dandelions or other wildflowers; sitting in the sunshine. I like taking my kids to the park and then indulging myself a mobile activities like planning a dream vacation or texting a friend. When I take my kids to the pool, they are strong enough swimmers that I can watch them while I do my own pool exercises. Or when I'm making dinner an they're playing nicely, I listen to my music or a podcast with one earphone in

As moms, as parents, we have to give ourselves permission to take up space. Yes, we have a responsibility to care for our little ones. Yes, that is a monumental sacrifice, and there can seem like a never ending amount of work. But we are also living the only life we are guaranteed. Our soul knows this, which is why we feel depressed when life becomes solely about someone else's needs. Tell yourself it is okay to snatch a slot in your own priority list. Your enjoyment of your own life is worth it.

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