Little Questions, Big Values
Running after kiddos can be so busy. It is so easy to miss imparting some big lessons because they get lost in the everyday shuffle. I have a few things I always try and hit on every day because they speak most to the values and skills I'm trying to impart to my children. I use the same simple questions as a jumping off point for these bigger discussions.1. "What was your favourite thing about today?"I use this question as a way to review our day and find out what worked. I can also use it as a point to talk about gratitude and love. It also reminds us to focus on the positive, which is a huge value mindset.2. "Did anything scare you or make you sad today?" This is so important! I didn't add it in until recently, when I realized we didn't have a time to talk about "safe people". I can't always prevent someone from hurting my kids, whether it be a big incident or a little playground slight. I always want my boys to be able to tell someone when that happens. If it isn't a big deal, and if it's a regular question they are asked, I feel like the lines of communication are open. I always end the conversation with a reminder to talk to me, Nick, Nana, or Gigi!3. "What do you want to do tomorrow?"This helps me check in with my kids. I can introduce tomorrow and try and keep fun activities in the schedule. I also use that as a time to talk about balancing everyone's needs and wants, and doing a mix of work and play.4. "What do you want to dream about?"Whenever you can, try and get a peak into the weird imagination of your children. It's parenting gold! I love sending them off to bed on a happy, positive note. It also gives me a first question in the morning that wakes the day up by tapping into that imagination. I use bath time and bedtime to hit on these questions. That way I'm closing the day with our values, and on a mostly positive note.What are ways you sneak in values discussions in your family? Is there a time of day that works for you?