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Chasing adventure & living mindfully while parenting through mental illness


Little Questions, Big Values

Little Questions, Big Values

Running after kiddos can be so busy. It is so easy to miss imparting some big lessons because they get lost in the everyday shuffle. I have a few things I always try and hit on every day because they speak most to the values and skills I'm trying to impart to my children. I use the same simple questions as a jumping off point for these bigger discussions.1. "What was your favourite thing about today?"I use this question as a way to review our day and find out what worked.  I can also use it as a point to talk about gratitude and love. It also reminds us to focus on the positive, which is a huge value mindset.2. "Did anything scare you or make you sad today?" This is so important! I didn't add it in until recently, when I realized we didn't have a time to talk about "safe people". I can't always prevent someone from hurting my kids, whether it be a big incident or a little playground slight. I always want my boys to be able to tell someone when that happens. If it isn't a big deal, and if it's a regular question they are asked, I feel like the lines of communication are open. I always end the conversation with a reminder to talk to me, Nick, Nana, or Gigi!3. "What do you want to do tomorrow?"This helps me check in with my kids. I can introduce tomorrow and try and keep fun activities in the schedule. I also use that as a time to talk about balancing everyone's needs and wants, and doing a mix of work and play.4. "What do you want to dream about?"Whenever you can, try and get a peak into the weird imagination of your children. It's parenting gold! I love sending them off to bed on a happy, positive note. It also gives me a first question in the morning that wakes the day up by tapping into that imagination.  I use bath time and bedtime to hit on these questions. That way I'm closing the day with our values, and on a mostly positive note.What are ways you sneak in values discussions in your family? Is there a time of day that works for you?

Olin 4 Months


Our Bedtime Routine

Our Bedtime Routine